Nothing like setting it out in dollars and cents.
I’d heartily recommend Sarah Kendzior’s writing to anyone wanting to understand the politics of race and class underlying what’s going on in Gaza — or Detroit, for that matter. It was via this piece on gender, power, and rape threats, however, that I first became aware of her — and was reminded of just how badly patriarchy, misogyny, and male entitlement can fuck things up.
Ah, friendzoning. The idea that if a man puts enough kindness coins into a lady a la vending machine, she is eventually obliged to push out sex.
Also, from the same piece: Is there anything more indicative of a fedora-clad b******t bro than a guy who says he’s been “friendzoned?”
Thanks, MRAs. Not only are you whiny, entitled losers — you’ve also ruined a perfectly good hat forever.
The choice for angry white men is not whether or not they can stem the tide of history: they cannot. Their choice is whether or not they will be dragged kicking and screaming into that inevitable future, or whether they will walk openly and honorably – far happier and healthier incidentally – alongside those they’ve spent so long trying to exclude.
Trigger Warning: violence
Yesterday night 17 people became the victims of a violent and deranged individual, a madman, who was unbalanced and ill. And yet another
white manpoor soul has committed an act of terrorismbeen a victim of inadequate mental health care. Or so the story goes.
Although the contract may have been shredded by greedy companies driven by greedier financiers, the sense of entitlement on the part of white men remains intact. Many white men feel they have played by the rules and expected to reap the rewards of that obedient responsibility. It’s pretty infuriating not to get what you feel you deserve. That’s the aggrieved entitlement that lies underneath the anger of American white men.
Michael Kimmel starts pulling at the threads making up the skein of white male entitlement.
#YesAllWomen because when I was sexually assaulted in the Navy, my commanding officer suggested it must have been a miscommunication between myself and that sailor since he was such a nice guy.
#YesAllWomen because when a man threatened to use me for target practice four years ago, the Laramie…
She may be a siren of demagoguery and treachery, but it doesn’t mean she’s wrong or you shouldn’t read her.
This kind of hateful rhetoric is exactly what MRA and PUA (Pick Up Artist) groups believe, and Rodgers was a known member. He was active on their forums, subscribed to their videos, and lifted their language in several disturbing videos published before the tragedy. He, like many MRA and PUA supporters, maintain a sense of entitlement towards women and their bodies, and consider men being dominant to women the natural order of things.
Men who subscribe to this kind of thinking are not necessarily so extreme as Rodgers, but that doesn’t make it any less troubling. You may have seen them hanging out at the mall, or on online dating sites (often referred to as “Nice Guys of Ok Cupid”). These are men who perpetuate a culture of misogyny and blame feminism for what they perceive as a reduction in men’s rights. They believe women owe them sex, should be submissive to their needs, and need to be put in their place. To restore the balance, these men are violent, sexually aggressive and disdainful towards women.
Posting this excerpt from another must-read. Because I can’t actually go looking for MRAs and PUAs - rape apologists, in plain English - to pound.
So no, it’s not all men. But then it never was.
But if you think for one second, for one solitary second, that demanding tolerance for men as a group, that dismissing the reality of violence against women because not all men kill, not all men rape, if you think that’s more important than demanding justice for those who have been brutalised and murdered by those not all men, then you are part of the problem. You may not have pulled the trigger. You may not have raised your hand to a woman in your life. But you are part of the problem.
This is not the time, to use the refrain of apologists for bigotry, to play devil’s advocate. The devil has more than enough advocates today. On most days, I can put up with aggressive faux-objectivity being used to shout down women’s experiences and silence gendered trauma, but not today.
No more NotAllMen. Not ever.
Earlier, seeming to anticipate the question, Mr. DeWine said: “Some may ask why others were not indicted. Under our system of justice the grand jury must have probable cause to believe all the elements of a criminal offense are present.”
“It is simply not sufficient that a person’s behavior was reprehensible, disgusting, meanspirited or just plain stupid,” he said.
Ohio Attorney-General Mike DeWine discusses the indictment of four so-called “adults” in the Steubenville football rape scandal.
Coach Reno Saccoccia was not indicted.
Source: The New York Times