… a recent poll by Israel’s Dialog polling group found that a majority of Israeli Jews now believe Israel practises “apartheid” against the Palestinians.
Once you grasp the concept of privileged distress, you’ll see it everywhere: the rich feel “punished” by taxes; whites believe they are the real victims of racism; employers’ religious freedom is threatened when they can’t deny contraception to their employees; English-speakers resent bilingualism — it goes on and on.
And what is the Tea Party movement other than a counter-revolution? It comes cloaked in religion and fiscal responsibility, but scratch the surface and you’ll find privileged distress: Change has taken something from us and we want it back.
Confronting this distress is tricky, because neither acceptance nor rejection is quite right. The distress is usually very real, so rejecting it outright just marks you as closed-minded and unsympathetic. It never works to ask others for empathy without offering it back to them.
At the same time, my straight-white-male sunburn can’t be allowed to compete on equal terms with your heart attack. To me, it may seem fair to flip a coin for the first available ambulance, but it really isn’t. Don’t try to tell me my burn doesn’t hurt, but don’t consent to the coin-flip.
The Owldolatrous approach — acknowledging the distress while continuing to point out the difference in scale — is as good as I’ve seen. Ultimately, the privileged need to be won over. Their sense of justice needs to be engaged rather than beaten down. The ones who still want to be good people need to be offered hope that such an outcome is possible in this new world.
As the author points out, a tricky balance, but really, the only tenable response. The fact that we’ll all fall short from time to time just makes re-commitment that much more important.
This is more a personal quibble of mine, but why do you hate freedom? Why do you hate the fact that other people want a chance to live their lives and be happy, even though they may believe in something different than you, or act different than you? How does gay marriage, in any way shape or form, affect your life?
So please don’t sue us for libel, we just want meat without your Bible …
(h/t Andrea Houston)
Yo, Rob. Isn’t it time to think about doing something else? | #TOpoli
There’s the TTC thing, of course. (Note: I’ve seen cyclists do this too. FFS, guys, wise up.)
And then via @Goldsbie in the Grid, turns out the “cottage tradition” excuse for skipping out on Pride is also somewhat, er, flimsy. Wish I could say I was shocked.
And in other Mayor Ford news, turns out his cottage excuse for skipping Pride is just a big lie. We are ruled by a cartoon villain/buffoon— benjaminboles (@benjaminboles) June 29, 2012